What does rape change a woman?
Actress Alia Bhatt, who is known for her film Udta Punjab which released in the year 2016, was asking media questions… When someone asked Alia… what was the most difficult for you in the type of character you played in this film? Alia got serious… and replied that till date she has never felt the way she did while doing a scene in this film… For those who don’t know, let us tell you that Alia played the role of a rape victim in this film.
Alia said that when she was doing this scene she knew it was all just acting… the people who were committing crimes with her in that scene were also just actors, but still she felt that fear… that disgust, that All realized that she has been trying to overcome this fear for a long time… Alia is an actress and she has done only one scene… But she realizes that this crime is not just a crime… It shakes you for life… It changes you. puts
Rape… a two and a half letter word, not just one word
Rape… this two and a half letter word is as big as it is small, the pain behind it… those countless tears… the burning… rape be it with a woman, child or man… hurts you inside. making it hollow. When someone touches you without your permission, it is not possible for everyone to understand the upheaval that goes on inside you.
Nirbhaya in 2012, Kathua rape victim girl in 2018… rape and murder of a female veterinary doctor in 2019 or rape of a female junior doctor in Kolkata today in the year 2024… these are not just newspaper headlines but the stories of someone’s life over which we and you often argue… Chant… light the candles, pray… and then… the sound ends, the phone goes off and you sleep peacefully at home.
How to understand someone’s pain?
How many rapes happen every year in India or around the world… how much, what are the proportions, what are the statistics… no matter how many times we present it to you in the media, it still has the same impact as the incident itself. Himself… talks about two days… You know what you have to do to understand the pain of a rape victim? Understand what changes within that person.
Imagine… you are in your home… it is very safe, there is no one outside. It’s two o’clock in the morning and you hear someone’s voice in your room. When you open the door, someone you know is standing in front. It could be anyone, your husband, your friend, anyone in your family… anyone… it comes in. sits in front of you. Whether he has drunk alcohol or not, he is angry at what you said. You two are talking when suddenly the guy grabs your hair… drags you and throws you on the bed… swears at you and then tears your clothes… you plead with him. In every corner of the room you just ask for his mercy… crying, moaning… screaming… but he doesn’t stop… he just wants to satisfy his lust… scratching you, scratching your body. The marks of his nails are all over your body… the marks of his teeth are imprinted on your shoulders, on your internal organs… and then… then you go numb…
Yes… this… this is how rape changes anyone… you must have heard many times that a girl’s body is adversely affected after rape. He gets scared. But imagine if you were so scared after reading the mind of someone you know, what would have happened to that person if such an act had happened to them. Physical wounds heal but mental wounds become almost impossible to heal.
The brain becomes the home of psychological diseases
According to psychologists, women who go through such tragedies undergo many changes in their body, along with this they are afflicted with various mental illnesses. Sleepless nights, sudden seizures, fear of people, eating disorders, body aversion, hatred of self or others, nightmares, panic attacks… these are all symptoms that are often seen in rape victims. Apart from this, many times the rape victim also suffers from problems like not being able to have physical relations with her partner after marriage, fear of any animal or color, TB, asthma, sinus etc.
Infection-inflammation or PTSD
They may develop symptoms of infection, swelling of their private parts, post-traumatic stress disorder or PTSD. They may also feel that they are always in danger and need protection. People who go through such accidents often cannot trust anyone and it becomes difficult for women to trust even their own people. Many times sudden obesity or excess weight loss is due to excessive stress. Rape victims sometimes suffer from serious mental problems like major depression, generalized anxiety disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder. This is more likely to occur in girls who are sexually abused at a very young age.
A woman’s body works differently
As for physical problems, these include pelvic pain, arthritis, digestive problems, chronic pain, cramps and severe premenstrual pain in women. Apart from this, sometimes after such accidents, periods stop due to stress which can lead to many other problems. During this time, things like excessive irritability, anger, OSD i.e. hygiene disorder also come to the fore. It works differently on women’s bodies. Therefore, he tries to adapt himself to the circumstances very quickly, but when his mind does not cooperate, such problems are often seen. But, it is not necessary that all these things happen in every rape victim. Many times, some rape victims face the situation with strength despite being very depressed. It is very important to understand the fear that goes through the mind of a rape victim. How many women or girls are there around us who are victims of street harassment every day?
Don’t just come with lit candles…
Ask them once how they would feel when they see an eagle watching its prey. You can only imagine how disgusting it can be if someone tries to touch you without your consent… So the next time you hear a rape victim’s story, don’t just light a candle. You may not be able to do anything for those victims, but if some of your office mate or some unknown girl is being subjected to this kind of teasing in front of your eyes… you will raise your voice…
